Myth
Men and women who faced an unintended pregnancy and chose to place their child for adoption took the easy way out and made an irresponsible decision.
Birth parents did not want their baby. They are “terrible” and “selfish” people who “gave their baby away” through adoption.
Birth mother or birth fathers endure serious, ongoing emotional challenges after placing their child for adoption.
A birth mother will regret her decision for the rest of her life.
Adoption is a more traumatic experience for a woman than abortion.
Most adopted children grow up feeling bitter and rejected.
Adoption will forever damage the child.
Biological parents are the only ones positioned to provide a stable and loving home for their child.
Parents will not love an adopted child as much as they will a child born to them.
The adoption process is secretive.
If a mother chooses adoption for her baby, the baby will go into foster care before he or she is adopted.
The adoption agency and waiting adoptive family only care about the prospective birth mother until she has the baby, and then she is forgotten.
The waiting adoptive family will agree to the adoption plan until after the adoption is final, and then will deny any contact between the birth parents and the child.
Birth parents who placed their child for adoption never see the child again.
Men and women who choose to place their child for adoption must go through an adoption agency.
Adoption is a responsible decision made by a person mature enough to place the best interests of the baby ahead of his or her immediate emotions.
Birth parents are brave men and women who selflessly placed their child’s future before their immediate desires. Birth parents considered all possible options for raising their biological child and came to the respectable decision that the child’s care would best be in the hand’s of another family.
Although a very difficult decision, birth parents who are confident in their reasons for adoption may ultimately feel they have chosen the best path for their child. They may find comfort in knowing that the child can now live a life they may not have been able to provide. It is essential that birth parents seek professional counseling to help them navigate the complex emotions during their adoption journey. They should also request the adoption agency cover their counseling expenses.
Expectant mothers make an adoption plan because they believe it is in the best interest of the child. When the adoption process is handled ethically, a birth mother can feel confident in her decision. With support and professional counseling before, during and after placement, they can grieve in a healthy way and proceed with the healing process in a positive manner.
With abortion, the pain of deep regret and uncertainty may last a lifetime. Adoption, however, can bring a sense of peace from knowing a thoughtful plan was made for the child's future. A birth mother can begin a new journey, both for herself and for the child.
With ethical adoption practices, the adopted child will grow up knowing that their family was formed through adoption, and may come to understand that their birth mother thoughtfully planned their future. The child may feel gratitude for the opportunities provided to them through this decision.
On virtually every level of social success and well-being, adoption has the advantage over the choice of abortion! The adopted child will:
•Have a chance at life
•Have a chance at stability
•Have a chance to be loved
•Have a chance to grow and thrive
•With ethical adoption practices, a chance for a healthy relationship with their birth mother. An unintended pregnancy can affect women of all ages and maturity levels. Prospective birth parents may be young or old, already parenting other children, not financially stable, or simply seeking a more secure future for their child than what they can provide at their current stage of life. However, with ethical adoption practices, adoptive parents are more prepared to take on the responsibility of parenthood. Love and attachment are not exclusively defined nor guaranteed by biology. The intensity of bonding and depth of emotion can be just as profound, regardless of how the child joined the family.
Prospective birth parents can select and meet with the waiting adoptive family if they want to. This gives them the opportunity to ask questions and receive information directly from them, as well as provide information for them to share with the child. The baby often goes straight home from the hospital with the chosen adoptive family, depending on the adoption laws in each state. The baby may only spend time in interim care if the birth mother is unsure of her decision, if there are complications in the legal process, or until the legal release procedures are completed. It's crucial for the birth parents to fully understand their legal rights, as each state has its own adoption laws regarding consent and revocation. There are states that allow the birth mother to wait to sign the consent forms, and if allowed by state law, she can revoke her decision within a specified period (Some states do not allow revocation!). Ethical adoption agencies work closely with the prospective birth mother and waiting adoptive parents to ensure that both parties fully understand their legal rights and are confident with the adoption process. Birth parents and adoptive families can work to develop a secure relationship throughout the adoption process and afterward. Ethical and reputable adoption agencies work closely through legal avenues so that a birth parent’s wishes are sustained throughout the child’s life. Every adoption agency and state varies on individual adoption policies, laws, and regulations. Depending on state law, the enforceability of an adoption agreement regarding post-adoption contact is generally not legally binding. This means that an open adoption agreement can be closed by either party, underscoring the importance of clear comunication and understanding for everyone involved.
Since prospective birth parents choose the type of adoption plan they want before the child is placed, the amount of contact they have with the child is solely up to them. However, either party can change the form of communication in their adoption plan at certain periods after the child is placed. This depends on the adoption agency or attorney that is used, as well as their state’s law regulations on adoption. It is imperative for prospective birth parents to completely understand the details surrounding their adoption plan, and how much time they will have to revoke relinquishment of the child in their state. Adoption and placement arrangements do not have to be done through an adoption agency. If you are searching for a legal avenue in adoption, working with an ethical adoption attorney is also a viable option.
•Have a chance at life
•Have a chance at stability
•Have a chance to be loved
•Have a chance to grow and thrive
•With ethical adoption practices, a chance for a healthy relationship with their birth mother. An unintended pregnancy can affect women of all ages and maturity levels. Prospective birth parents may be young or old, already parenting other children, not financially stable, or simply seeking a more secure future for their child than what they can provide at their current stage of life. However, with ethical adoption practices, adoptive parents are more prepared to take on the responsibility of parenthood. Love and attachment are not exclusively defined nor guaranteed by biology. The intensity of bonding and depth of emotion can be just as profound, regardless of how the child joined the family.
Prospective birth parents can select and meet with the waiting adoptive family if they want to. This gives them the opportunity to ask questions and receive information directly from them, as well as provide information for them to share with the child. The baby often goes straight home from the hospital with the chosen adoptive family, depending on the adoption laws in each state. The baby may only spend time in interim care if the birth mother is unsure of her decision, if there are complications in the legal process, or until the legal release procedures are completed. It's crucial for the birth parents to fully understand their legal rights, as each state has its own adoption laws regarding consent and revocation. There are states that allow the birth mother to wait to sign the consent forms, and if allowed by state law, she can revoke her decision within a specified period (Some states do not allow revocation!). Ethical adoption agencies work closely with the prospective birth mother and waiting adoptive parents to ensure that both parties fully understand their legal rights and are confident with the adoption process. Birth parents and adoptive families can work to develop a secure relationship throughout the adoption process and afterward. Ethical and reputable adoption agencies work closely through legal avenues so that a birth parent’s wishes are sustained throughout the child’s life. Every adoption agency and state varies on individual adoption policies, laws, and regulations. Depending on state law, the enforceability of an adoption agreement regarding post-adoption contact is generally not legally binding. This means that an open adoption agreement can be closed by either party, underscoring the importance of clear comunication and understanding for everyone involved.
Since prospective birth parents choose the type of adoption plan they want before the child is placed, the amount of contact they have with the child is solely up to them. However, either party can change the form of communication in their adoption plan at certain periods after the child is placed. This depends on the adoption agency or attorney that is used, as well as their state’s law regulations on adoption. It is imperative for prospective birth parents to completely understand the details surrounding their adoption plan, and how much time they will have to revoke relinquishment of the child in their state. Adoption and placement arrangements do not have to be done through an adoption agency. If you are searching for a legal avenue in adoption, working with an ethical adoption attorney is also a viable option.
